301 words by Scarlett Fajardo
I’m passionate about making a positive impact and enjoy the professional success I’ve achieved so far. Nevertheless, I have often asked myself “Am I good enough?“.
After every promotion, I worried that I might fail and felt the need to prove that I deserved it.
When I talk with friends about this, I realize that many others – especially women – experience the same self-doubt. Why is it that even successful women – women I admire – feel this nagging doubt?
Maybe it is the perceived assumption that we were chosen to fulfill a quota. I often feel that society expects more of women. This is unfair.
I have unrealistic expectations to be perfect in all areas of life: as a partner, mother, leader, colleague. Recently I realized that I am putting unnecessary pressure on myself.
To reduce the weight on my shoulders, I started practicing self-compassion, strengthening my confidence and taking pride in my achievements.
This means for me: I show myself love, and actively listen to the people that support me. I am more willing to accept compliments.
In the past, when someone told me how great my presentation was, I would usually reply, “Thanks, but I forgot to mention xyz.” That doesn’t make sense to me anymore.
Now I allow myself to be less perfect. I don’t beautify internal slides or
subscribe to the expectation that I must provide a home-cooked meal for my family every evening.
When I shared my self-doubts with a friend, he literally told me, “You are good enough!” At this moment, I felt an overwhelming sense of relief!
Working women should acknowledge their many successes and embrace failures as opportunities for growth.
Stop questioning yourself. Instead, share your stories of successes and
failures with others. You are good enough!
About the author
Scarlett Fajardo is a working woman, mother of 2, with degrees in engineering and general management. What she really is passionate about is having a positive impact in people’s lives. Success means for her making things better